I have a large black and white poster of a go-go dancer taken by an amzing photographer in my living room. It speak of the joy if life. Today my daughter came running to get me to show me something urgent. I followed her into the living room and she pointed to the poster to show me that one corner of the poster had come free of the wall and was hanging down, covering much of the image. I got some tape and fixed it and we both threw our arms up like the woman in the photo and danced around with joy and yelled “Dancing dancing!”
I am really into being a mom. It is hard and exhausting and all consuming but I am so grateful to have the chance to do it. I love being married to my husband and having a daughter and being a mother and a parent. I don’t mean to be sappy, but I just get it: this is what I am doing right now and it is brilliant, perfect, worth it.
I wish that I had appreciated where I was at other times in my life, single or childless or dating or whatever. I had appreciation but I was also trying to get some place else a lot of the time. I see people without kids saying they are “busy” just like I used to say and I think how they do not really know what busy is, and what I really mean is that I did not know what busy meant back then. I had so much freedom and time. I still do but it is different. When you have a child, you really can’t be somewhere else doing something else for all that long unless you want other people to be your child’s parents. And again, I am not complaining at all. I love every minute of it, even when I am exhausted to the point of tears. Motherhood is a choice I made and I am thrilled about everything that that means. But I am compelled to say:
Hey everyone else! Enjoy where you are at while you are there. Work is not as important as you might think. That guy that broke your heart is not as great as you think, trust me on this one. You have so much freedom, we all do. Being single is amazing. Having a good partner is amazing. Having kidsa is amazing. Not having kids is amazing. Looking for love is great, looking for work is great, having work is great, having time off is great. Having money is great, not having money is great. Time is a gift. People are gifts. Space is a gift. We are gifts. Find the good stuff and relish it. Appreciation! Gratitude! In the end we all get the same 24 hours. Enjoy. Peace.