In ten short years my girl may start dating.
Wow. I do not want her to have my experiences, yikes, but what do I want for
I do not wish for my children to marry as
virgins and be with one person their whole life unless they want that.
I have no agenda for their sex lives and
relationships other than they are safe and happy and have choices. I want them
to have peace and self esteem to go and explore whatever they feel they need
if it came down to one word I would pick
“choice” as in educated choice, to make her own decisions from a strong secure
place. So ho do you give that?
I was thinking about tips to give them as
Be with someone you care about and trust.
Being with someone you love is even better.
Use protection even if you love and trust
Communicate your thoughts feeling needs
Check you motives and do it because you want
to, not because you need to, or feel pressure or want something.
Don’t have expectations unless you have
talked about things first
Don’t be with people in relationships
Don’t do anything you are unsure of, you can
always come back to it later’
They are not bad tips but really they are
not doable without a strong sense of self and self esteem. That is what my
children need to navigate sex and everything in life for that matter. It is all an
inside job. How do I give them that is the question. I am not sure. I am doing
my best to love them and support them and be an example and I hope that
that is enough. Luckily I have a decade or so to figure this out cause as I write I realize i have no f*ing idea what I am doing....